Sunday, 30 August 2015

10 Myths About Introverts

I found this  article by Carl King quite interesting (I'm sure you understand why). 


Myth 1 : Introverts don’t like to talk 
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth 2 : Introverts are shy
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.
Myth 3 : Introverts are rude
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth 4 : Introverts don’t like people
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth 5 : Introverts don’t like to go out in public
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth 6 : Introverts always want to be alone
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth 7 : Introverts are weird
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth 8 : Introverts are aloof nerds
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.
Myth 9 : Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth 10 : Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts
A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

The summarized myths resonated with me that it spurred me to reblog content. I have been considered ALL of the above and more but hey how do you reckon the world would be without me or folks like me? Embrace diversity; it's beautiful!

Wednesday, 26 August 2015

15-for-15-Challenge05 - The bug bit me too

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Nah not that kind of 'yamayama' insect bug that causes some itchy uncomfortable feeling. It's another kind of bug; a very beautiful bug that leaves one feeling passionate about a thing, happy about that same thing and super proud of the results that emanate although I am fully aware also that interests can be fleeting but who knows, this one may just last!

So what is it? I've been badly bitten by the natural hair blog. Did someone just make a victory sound? For the longest time ever I have wanted to cut my hair - blame it on all the years spent in primary and secondary school 'cornrowless' devoid of girly curls like many pretty girls had. I enjoyed those days of hair-liberty when I could freely pour a bucket full of water on my sparse hair. That carefree attitude one had dunking in and out of a big river or reservoir of water. *Arrrrrrrrrgh* It was sheer bliss to feel the touch of the tiny blue tail comb against my scalp unlike the sharp edged 'ilarun' you would have to endure sitting between the legs of Mrs Adanma or Mama Suliya just because you needed to make 'patewo' as called on the assembly ground by the Head Teacher. Believe me it was great joy knowing my weekends would be spent reading Mills & Boon or any other captivating stuff and not have to wait on a very long annoying queue while the other girls got their hair styled. Low cut meant punk for me in those days or simply skin pronounced /skeeeen/. I wish I could whip up one of my oldies so you'll have a look-see at the kinda girl-boy I was. Fast forward undergraduate days it didn't come as a shock to me when the thoughts burst forth from the recess of my mind to go on that journey again and this time it was to be a deliberate and intentional decision not because the school forced me to go on low cut but alas my folks wouldn't let me. They believed it should be my husband giving me permission to be weird. I say 'weird' because at the time the bug hadn't caught on deeply so a lady at my age would have looked off on such low in the midst of people but January 1 2015, I became my husband...

I cut my hair!

Experiences have shown that I can be very impulsive but that decision was definitely unexpected as at 31st December 2014. So yes I am on that train now #teamnatural #naturalista and I'm trying to learn all I can about feeding my hair but mehn all the daily AM and PM and weekly and monthly routine are quite religious o. This time going on skin didn't come up as an option - you know why. My hair journey started with Anita Baker cut which I still permed and styled as I liked then the relaxer addition ceased at some point and I turned to texturizer application but that also took a deep plunge with more knowledge gathered. I'm not about to turn this to a hair blog as I'm not sure I even want to chronicle every inch growth but maybe once in a while I may just show off some new tricks I pick up from hair-blog whoring. I have subscribed to a couple of bbm channels but I absolutely love Natural Hair Product Review managed by Ellen who blogs at kinky Nigerian curls

To keep my hair healthy I have done & will continue to do the honey +  egg yolk mixture as I have also developed a hair regimen as well as wash routine.It's pretty simple.

Mornings I moisturize with water and apply Castor oil (I'm sticking to one now so I know what works best for my hair).

Evenings I do the same and seal the moisture and oil in my hair by using a satin scarf.

Twice a week - Wednesdays and Sundays are my wash days when I use the honey mixture which I apply first before washing with shampoo or ordinary conditioner. Then I use deep conditioner, wait a couple of minutes -----> rinse -------> apply leave-in conditioner ------> There are various terms used but you can always read up to get familiar.

So here goes my picture no particular order

01/01/15 Boyish huh? ;-)

Look @ me not 'em & definitely not the waste basket *covers face*

May '15

A bit of tuxturizer here

rocking my Anita Baker

Straw curls thingz ;-)

As life isn't a bed of roses I expect this journey to be bumpy. It's gulping a bit of dosh already. When the hair throws some tantrums let's see how determined and prepared I am for the haul.

Are you a #naturalista too? What care tips do you wanna share? That's obviously directed to the lady sir :)

Typed. Edited(I think). Delivered. My fifth piece in the 15-for-15 Challenge themed woman; her body, soul and spirit

PS - 'ilarun' is a type of local comb, usually brownish with very pointed tips used to part/cut hair into sections by hair stylists.

'patewo'  is a local hairstyle too which literally means 'clap' your hands'. It was such a popular hair style for girls in secondary school those days in this part of town.

Tuesday, 11 August 2015

True Yarns

Hello beautiful blogger fam,

How y'all doing this grand Tuesday? So I've been on leave for over a week now but been unable to write a thing still :-( Guess it's time to make a public call for guest post...please feel free to email me ( your creative writing and let's get this blog on a roller coaster mode 24/7. You git? 

Okay back to biznez. Today I'll be sharing some personal lessons and thoughts I picked up from random books I've read over the years. Hope you find a word or two to guide you through life. Cheers amigos and amigas! E-hugs

So which quote was your favorite? Any you would love to share with other readers? Let's hear you...drop a line ;-)