Thursday, 21 August 2014

Patience Is a Virtue… and Settling Is Not An Option

Posted by Oyinlola Sobowale on Thursday, August 21, 2014 in , | 5 comments
Patience Is a Virtue… and Settling Is Not An Option

I just had to re-blog this!
As the days go by and my strides feel like they are getting longer and longer. I yearn for that one MAN who is God sent, who is my friend, my boyfriend and ultimately change my last name to his and we become lifetime partners. This isn’t a lonely post; in fact I’m a happy single (who is tired of dating her friends’). This is for all singles that are in the struggle and being positive while waiting for their companion. God created us to be fruitful.

As a young woman I am a HOPEFUL romantic not HOPELESS , but HOPEFUL. I believe in love , I believe… Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres ( 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 )

I refuse to be the woman that settles, just to say she has a companion. I’m waiting for my Umbrella or modern day Boaz. Here’s a question I ask daily; How does one remain hopeful and not compromise themselves when society dictates that it is okay to “shack up”,” have PROTECTED sex “ and settle for a common law marriage”, all the while having the “I don’t need a man mentality”?

I don’t walk around with a checklist, but geesh can my candidate have substance and morals? I promise you it is getting harder and harder for us women, because no one wants to work for it. Well I don’t want an expensive purse, shoes, or car. I want the praying together, worshiping together, intimate talks, weekend getaways, family gatherings, and building success together even if we have to struggle.

I’m not one to conform because I was raised by an old school mother and grandmother. I’m a modern day single woman who is strong enough to be alone, but also humble enough to know everyone needs somebody; and knows loneliness is a lie from the devil. I desire to be a wife, so therefore I have to conduct myself as a wife, I can’t keep putting myself in the friend zone and giving confusing signs.

I will remain Hopeful , because I know whatever I desire and what God has ordained for my life will happen, so therefore I remain patient. So singles out there remain happy, be patient and have fun; but stay away from the friend zone and sending mixed signals. It is a lesson I learned the hard way.

“Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action; rather it is “timing”. It waits on the right time to act, for the right principles and in the right way.”



See more at: http://theprayingwoman.com/2014/08/20/patience-is-a-virtue-and-settling-is-not-an-option/#sthash.Ww8XiouS.dpuf


As
the days go by and my strides feel like they are getting longer and
longer. I yearn for that one MAN who is God sent, who is my friend, my
boyfriend and ultimately change my last name to his and we become
lifetime partners. This isn’t a lonely post; in fact I’m a happy single
(who is tired of dating her friends’). This is for all singles that’s in
the struggle and being positive while waiting for their companion. God
created us to be fruitful.


As a young woman I am a HOPEFUL romantic not HOPELESS , but HOPEFUL. I believe in love , I believe… Love
is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is
not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is
not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight
in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres ( 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 )



I refuse to be the woman that settles, just to say she has a
companion. I’m waiting for my Umbrella or modern day Boaz. Here’s a
question I ask daily; How does one remain hopeful and not compromise
themselves when society dictates that it’s ok to “shack up”,” have
PROTECTED sex “ and settle for a common law marriage”, all while having
the “I don’t need a man mentality”?


I don’t walk around with a checklist, but geesh can my candidate have
substance and morals . I promise you it’s getting harder and harder for
us women, because no one wants to work for it. Well I don’t want an
expensive purse, shoes, or car. I want the praying together, worshiping
together, intimate talks, weekend getaways, family gatherings, and
building success together even if we have to struggle.


I’m not one to conform because I was raised by an old school mother
and grandmother. I’m a modern day single woman who is strong enough to
be alone, but also humble enough to know everyone needs somebody; and
knows loneliness is a lie from the devil. I desire to be a wife, so
therefore I have to conduct myself as a wife, I can’t keep putting
myself in the friend zone and giving confusing signs.


I will remain Hopeful , because I know whatever I desire and what God
has ordain for my life will happen, so therefore I remain patient. So
singles out there remain happy, be patient and have fun; but stay away
from the friend zone and sending mix signals. It’s a lesson I learned
the hard way.


“Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action; rather
its “timing” it waits on the right time to act, for the right principles
and in the right way.”



Meet the Author:

- See more at: http://theprayingwoman.com/2014/08/20/patience-is-a-virtue-and-settling-is-not-an-option/#sthash.Ww8XiouS.dpuf
As
the days go by and my strides feel like they are getting longer and
longer. I yearn for that one MAN who is God sent, who is my friend, my
boyfriend and ultimately change my last name to his and we become
lifetime partners. This isn’t a lonely post; in fact I’m a happy single
(who is tired of dating her friends’). This is for all singles that’s in
the struggle and being positive while waiting for their companion. God
created us to be fruitful.


As a young woman I am a HOPEFUL romantic not HOPELESS , but HOPEFUL. I believe in love , I believe… Love
is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is
not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is
not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight
in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres ( 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 )



I refuse to be the woman that settles, just to say she has a
companion. I’m waiting for my Umbrella or modern day Boaz. Here’s a
question I ask daily; How does one remain hopeful and not compromise
themselves when society dictates that it’s ok to “shack up”,” have
PROTECTED sex “ and settle for a common law marriage”, all while having
the “I don’t need a man mentality”?


I don’t walk around with a checklist, but geesh can my candidate have
substance and morals . I promise you it’s getting harder and harder for
us women, because no one wants to work for it. Well I don’t want an
expensive purse, shoes, or car. I want the praying together, worshiping
together, intimate talks, weekend getaways, family gatherings, and
building success together even if we have to struggle.


I’m not one to conform because I was raised by an old school mother
and grandmother. I’m a modern day single woman who is strong enough to
be alone, but also humble enough to know everyone needs somebody; and
knows loneliness is a lie from the devil. I desire to be a wife, so
therefore I have to conduct myself as a wife, I can’t keep putting
myself in the friend zone and giving confusing signs.


I will remain Hopeful , because I know whatever I desire and what God
has ordain for my life will happen, so therefore I remain patient. So
singles out there remain happy, be patient and have fun; but stay away
from the friend zone and sending mix signals. It’s a lesson I learned
the hard way.


“Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action; rather
its “timing” it waits on the right time to act, for the right principles
and in the right way.”



Meet the Author:

- See more at: http://theprayingwoman.com/2014/08/20/patience-is-a-virtue-and-settling-is-not-an-option/#sthash.Ww8XiouS.dpuf
As
the days go by and my strides feel like they are getting longer and
longer. I yearn for that one MAN who is God sent, who is my friend, my
boyfriend and ultimately change my last name to his and we become
lifetime partners. This isn’t a lonely post; in fact I’m a happy single
(who is tired of dating her friends’). This is for all singles that’s in
the struggle and being positive while waiting for their companion. God
created us to be fruitful.


As a young woman I am a HOPEFUL romantic not HOPELESS , but HOPEFUL. I believe in love , I believe… Love
is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is
not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is
not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight
in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres ( 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 )



I refuse to be the woman that settles, just to say she has a
companion. I’m waiting for my Umbrella or modern day Boaz. Here’s a
question I ask daily; How does one remain hopeful and not compromise
themselves when society dictates that it’s ok to “shack up”,” have
PROTECTED sex “ and settle for a common law marriage”, all while having
the “I don’t need a man mentality”?


I don’t walk around with a checklist, but geesh can my candidate have
substance and morals . I promise you it’s getting harder and harder for
us women, because no one wants to work for it. Well I don’t want an
expensive purse, shoes, or car. I want the praying together, worshiping
together, intimate talks, weekend getaways, family gatherings, and
building success together even if we have to struggle.


I’m not one to conform because I was raised by an old school mother
and grandmother. I’m a modern day single woman who is strong enough to
be alone, but also humble enough to know everyone needs somebody; and
knows loneliness is a lie from the devil. I desire to be a wife, so
therefore I have to conduct myself as a wife, I can’t keep putting
myself in the friend zone and giving confusing signs.


I will remain Hopeful , because I know whatever I desire and what God
has ordain for my life will happen, so therefore I remain patient. So
singles out there remain happy, be patient and have fun; but stay away
from the friend zone and sending mix signals. It’s a lesson I learned
the hard way.


“Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action; rather
its “timing” it waits on the right time to act, for the right principles
and in the right way.”



Meet the Author:

- See more at: http://theprayingwoman.com/2014/08/20/patience-is-a-virtue-and-settling-is-not-an-option/#sthash.Ww8XiouS.dpuf
As
the days go by and my strides feel like they are getting longer and
longer. I yearn for that one MAN who is God sent, who is my friend, my
boyfriend and ultimately change my last name to his and we become
lifetime partners. This isn’t a lonely post; in fact I’m a happy single
(who is tired of dating her friends’). This is for all singles that’s in
the struggle and being positive while waiting for their companion. God
created us to be fruitful.


As a young woman I am a HOPEFUL romantic not HOPELESS , but HOPEFUL. I believe in love , I believe… Love
is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is
not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is
not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight
in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres ( 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 )



I refuse to be the woman that settles, just to say she has a
companion. I’m waiting for my Umbrella or modern day Boaz. Here’s a
question I ask daily; How does one remain hopeful and not compromise
themselves when society dictates that it’s ok to “shack up”,” have
PROTECTED sex “ and settle for a common law marriage”, all while having
the “I don’t need a man mentality”?


I don’t walk around with a checklist, but geesh can my candidate have
substance and morals . I promise you it’s getting harder and harder for
us women, because no one wants to work for it. Well I don’t want an
expensive purse, shoes, or car. I want the praying together, worshiping
together, intimate talks, weekend getaways, family gatherings, and
building success together even if we have to struggle.


I’m not one to conform because I was raised by an old school mother
and grandmother. I’m a modern day single woman who is strong enough to
be alone, but also humble enough to know everyone needs somebody; and
knows loneliness is a lie from the devil. I desire to be a wife, so
therefore I have to conduct myself as a wife, I can’t keep putting
myself in the friend zone and giving confusing signs.


I will remain Hopeful , because I know whatever I desire and what God
has ordain for my life will happen, so therefore I remain patient. So
singles out there remain happy, be patient and have fun; but stay away
from the friend zone and sending mix signals. It’s a lesson I learned
the hard way.


“Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action; rather
its “timing” it waits on the right time to act, for the right principles
and in the right way.”



Meet the Author:

- See more at: http://theprayingwoman.com/2014/08/20/patience-is-a-virtue-and-settling-is-not-an-option/#sthash.Ww8XiouS.dpuf
As
the days go by and my strides feel like they are getting longer and
longer. I yearn for that one MAN who is God sent, who is my friend, my
boyfriend and ultimately change my last name to his and we become
lifetime partners. This isn’t a lonely post; in fact I’m a happy single
(who is tired of dating her friends’). This is for all singles that’s in
the struggle and being positive while waiting for their companion. God
created us to be fruitful.


As a young woman I am a HOPEFUL romantic not HOPELESS , but HOPEFUL. I believe in love , I believe… Love
is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is
not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is
not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight
in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres ( 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 )



I refuse to be the woman that settles, just to say she has a
companion. I’m waiting for my Umbrella or modern day Boaz. Here’s a
question I ask daily; How does one remain hopeful and not compromise
themselves when society dictates that it’s ok to “shack up”,” have
PROTECTED sex “ and settle for a common law marriage”, all while having
the “I don’t need a man mentality”?


I don’t walk around with a checklist, but geesh can my candidate have
substance and morals . I promise you it’s getting harder and harder for
us women, because no one wants to work for it. Well I don’t want an
expensive purse, shoes, or car. I want the praying together, worshiping
together, intimate talks, weekend getaways, family gatherings, and
building success together even if we have to struggle.


I’m not one to conform because I was raised by an old school mother
and grandmother. I’m a modern day single woman who is strong enough to
be alone, but also humble enough to know everyone needs somebody; and
knows loneliness is a lie from the devil. I desire to be a wife, so
therefore I have to conduct myself as a wife, I can’t keep putting
myself in the friend zone and giving confusing signs.


I will remain Hopeful , because I know whatever I desire and what God
has ordain for my life will happen, so therefore I remain patient. So
singles out there remain happy, be patient and have fun; but stay away
from the friend zone and sending mix signals. It’s a lesson I learned
the hard way.


“Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action; rather
its “timing” it waits on the right time to act, for the right principles
and in the right way.”



Meet the Author:

- See more at: http://theprayingwoman.com/2014/08/20/patience-is-a-virtue-and-settling-is-not-an-option/#sthash.Ww8XiouS.dpuf
As
the days go by and my strides feel like they are getting longer and
longer. I yearn for that one MAN who is God sent, who is my friend, my
boyfriend and ultimately change my last name to his and we become
lifetime partners. This isn’t a lonely post; in fact I’m a happy single
(who is tired of dating her friends’). This is for all singles that’s in
the struggle and being positive while waiting for their companion. God
created us to be fruitful.


As a young woman I am a HOPEFUL romantic not HOPELESS , but HOPEFUL. I believe in love , I believe… Love
is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is
not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is
not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight
in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres ( 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 )



I refuse to be the woman that settles, just to say she has a
companion. I’m waiting for my Umbrella or modern day Boaz. Here’s a
question I ask daily; How does one remain hopeful and not compromise
themselves when society dictates that it’s ok to “shack up”,” have
PROTECTED sex “ and settle for a common law marriage”, all while having
the “I don’t need a man mentality”?


I don’t walk around with a checklist, but geesh can my candidate have
substance and morals . I promise you it’s getting harder and harder for
us women, because no one wants to work for it. Well I don’t want an
expensive purse, shoes, or car. I want the praying together, worshiping
together, intimate talks, weekend getaways, family gatherings, and
building success together even if we have to struggle.


I’m not one to conform because I was raised by an old school mother
and grandmother. I’m a modern day single woman who is strong enough to
be alone, but also humble enough to know everyone needs somebody; and
knows loneliness is a lie from the devil. I desire to be a wife, so
therefore I have to conduct myself as a wife, I can’t keep putting
myself in the friend zone and giving confusing signs.


I will remain Hopeful , because I know whatever I desire and what God
has ordain for my life will happen, so therefore I remain patient. So
singles out there remain happy, be patient and have fun; but stay away
from the friend zone and sending mix signals. It’s a lesson I learned
the hard way.


“Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action; rather
its “timing” it waits on the right time to act, for the right principles
and in the right way.”


- See more at: http://theprayingwoman.com/2014/08/20/patience-is-a-virtue-and-settling-is-not-an-option/#sthash.Ww8XiouS.dpuf
As
the days go by and my strides feel like they are getting longer and
longer. I yearn for that one MAN who is God sent, who is my friend, my
boyfriend and ultimately change my last name to his and we become
lifetime partners. This isn’t a lonely post; in fact I’m a happy single
(who is tired of dating her friends’). This is for all singles that’s in
the struggle and being positive while waiting for their companion. God
created us to be fruitful.


As a young woman I am a HOPEFUL romantic not HOPELESS , but HOPEFUL. I believe in love , I believe… Love
is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is
not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is
not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight
in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts,
always hopes, always perseveres ( 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 )



I refuse to be the woman that settles, just to say she has a
companion. I’m waiting for my Umbrella or modern day Boaz. Here’s a
question I ask daily; How does one remain hopeful and not compromise
themselves when society dictates that it’s ok to “shack up”,” have
PROTECTED sex “ and settle for a common law marriage”, all while having
the “I don’t need a man mentality”?


I don’t walk around with a checklist, but geesh can my candidate have
substance and morals . I promise you it’s getting harder and harder for
us women, because no one wants to work for it. Well I don’t want an
expensive purse, shoes, or car. I want the praying together, worshiping
together, intimate talks, weekend getaways, family gatherings, and
building success together even if we have to struggle.


I’m not one to conform because I was raised by an old school mother
and grandmother. I’m a modern day single woman who is strong enough to
be alone, but also humble enough to know everyone needs somebody; and
knows loneliness is a lie from the devil. I desire to be a wife, so
therefore I have to conduct myself as a wife, I can’t keep putting
myself in the friend zone and giving confusing signs.


I will remain Hopeful , because I know whatever I desire and what God
has ordain for my life will happen, so therefore I remain patient. So
singles out there remain happy, be patient and have fun; but stay away
from the friend zone and sending mix signals. It’s a lesson I learned
the hard way.


“Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action; rather
its “timing” it waits on the right time to act, for the right principles
and in the right way.”


- See more at: http://theprayingwoman.com/2014/08/20/patience-is-a-virtue-and-settling-is-not-an-option/#sthash.Ww8XiouS.dpuf
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5 comments:

  1. Marriage is great when you don't compromise unnecessarily to your own detriment. Be happy and let God guide you is the key. Some find themselves managing a broke ass guy with no plans of ever doing anything other than eating off the woman while some marry the man with loads of blood money or even if it were hard earned, he cheats. The Lord knows us best and knows who fits us best- Let him guide. Great one- singles should make themselves happy and be positively assured that God is able.

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  2. Lovely write up. I'm motivated.

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  3. All I wanted to do is like this post. Its so important to not forget what you want becos of pressures from society. Be the best you you can be.

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  4. Wow..this is so inspirational..may I borrow it...It speaks volumes
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  5. Sure darling, please feel free to share...guess you felt the intensity of the message as I did too, just couldn't read and be blessed alone.

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